“Life starts to happen outside your comfort zone” ….
It sure does.
Nicole and I went to a seminar for women in business last week. Fempire “The future is female”! It was of course amazing for my newly developing business brain, but I never imagined that I would take so much personally away from it.
I had a comfortable life: – I was happy enough being a wife, a mother and working to help support my family. I was safe, or I thought I was. When it came to my career, I was content. I had ‘fallen” into the hair and beauty industry and liked it well enough but I didn’t always feel good enough (even though now I know I was actually pretty good and if I had chosen to, I could have been better) I didn’t think I had more in me as I was stunted by my own thoughts and feelings about who I was and cared way too much what other people thought. So, when it all fell apart, I never imagined that my life would actually fall together.
In the last year I have had some big changes. One of these was a complete change in career. I went from hairdressing to working in an Equine Vet practice, you couldn’t pick two careers so different, but I loved working with the horse’s and I found out I was pretty good with them. In my business I had gained a little social media marketing experience and had done my own admin but working at the vet I learned so much more on a whole different scale. I had the opportunity to grow in a different way. I had gotten comfortable, I thought I was able to “hide” from any personal problems (ha what a joke) and I felt safe again. So, it was a shock when it came time to leave the vet, everything happens for a reason though and I would never have considered what I am doing now without the lessons I learned from working with them.
Now I’m uncomfortable, personally and professionally… and life is happening. I’m single and almost an empty nester. I’m working with AgentNet, hairdressing 2 days a week and working in disability to spend time with family and make ends meet.
And on top of all that for the first time in 11 yrs I’m studying again, this is really uncomfortable for me because anyone who knows me, knows how much I struggled in high school. I never really had a direction, I was always distracted and was more of a hands-on learner, I loved the creative side of it. Art was my thing but even then, I didn’t believe I was good enough. So now with the Real Estate course, my negative self-talk likes to creep in and say things like “who are you kidding, you can’t do this”, “you won’t finish it” and my biggest fear “you’ll disappoint them”. But I can’t let those thoughts win because if I do, it will be me that I’ll disappoint, and I refuse to let myself down.
So, I’m learning to pick up on my weaknesses, recognizing when I put myself down and starting to work on positive self-talk instead of negative. I’m putting strategies in place and prioritizing the most important things first. I’m making vision boards, visualizing success and surrounding myself with all the things that inspire me to be a better person. I’m choosing to be around people that I respect. I’m investing in myself and because of that I’m growing personally and professionally.
The future is looking bright so I’m getting comfortable with being uncomfortable and I’m going to let life happen.